How to Help Yourself Deal with Depression

When you, yourself are the one dealing with depression, it may not be easy for you to recognize that depression is what you are experiencing. Depression may have such a hold on you that you fail to see the obvious signs that others can see in you. Sometimes it takes a good friend, a family member, or trusted co-worker to clue you in on what they recognize in you – the signs of depression.

Even when you do understand that depression is what you are dealing with it is not easy to seek professional help. Some things that may hinder you from seeking help are: you feel that mental health services will be expensive, or you feel embarrassed if someone you know finds out about your appointments and you fear that they will think less of you as a person.


One of the first things you need to do for yourself to feel better is to understand that a problem does exist, that it is not normal to feel so badly about yourself or your situation. Depression hurts and you will hopefully at some point recognize that you are in pain and you need to stop feeling this way. When you are faced with a “situational/event or one time life changing occurrence that has caused your depression, you may be able to do things to help yourself overcome your feelings of depression. This is only in cases where the depression is brief and has a single explainable cause.

There are many self-help books and videos and even classes on depression that may prove helpful to you. There are even depression groups that you can join where you can meet others who have experienced similar losses, or events that triggered your depression. It can be helpful to be a part of a group of people who understand what you are going through because they themselves have gone through something similar. How to overcome from mental toughness and problems? The solution is provided through the experts and professionals to meet with the requirements. The understanding of the symptoms of depression is necessary to get rid of the mental and mind problems. 

Time is a wonderful healer. Sometimes when you are faced with a situational or event causing depression (divorce, loss of a loved one, job related loss), the passage of time lessens the pain. Sometimes the pain lessens when what you have lost has been replaced in part by a new activity. When experiencing depression over the ending of a marriage relationship, sometimes just being involved with an organization or volunteer position in the community can give you a new sense of purpose. The new relationships you form do not replace your marriage partner, but the sense of purpose, of belonging can be replaced and can give you a feeling of hope that will help to fade the pain you were feeling.

Understand that feeling worthless, helpless or exhausted can all be normal parts of your depression and that these feelings will fade as you heal. When you feel worthless, it can lead to you feeling negative about yourself. It is important to understand once you have identified yourself as being depressed that you examine how you are feeling about yourself. When you notice thoughts of negativity about yourself, hopefully you will be able to remember that you are going through a time that will pass. Hopefully you have also been able to set up some sources of help.

These sources can be the group mentioned earlier, as well as organizations or volunteer opportunities. Being with others will help you to see yourself through their eyes. Doing things that are helpful to others like volunteering at libraries, nursing homes, charities etc., can give you a chance to feel good about yourself again. It is important step to stay active and to not be alone. Know that this time of depression will pass. Staying busy will help the time to pass more quickly.

If you find that your depression is lasting longer than a few weeks, or you are having thoughts of suicide or thought of hurting yourself, than you need to seek professional help immediately. Do not suffer alone. No one has to be alone in his or her depression. Everyone feels depressed from time to time and feeling this way is nothing to be ashamed of. People get depressed over every day occurrences. Adults and children can become depressed. Having loved ones around you, who care about you can ease your pain. Do not turn them away. Try your best to communicate your needs to them.


When you are overwhelmed by feelings of Depression it is often helpful to set goals for yourself to help you overcome feelings of frustration, and inadequacies stemming from your depression. The goals you set can help build your self-confidence. You should strive to set goals that are attainable and detailed. Set a time frame for achieving your goals.

Example Goals

Goal 1 – By January 5th I will look up a self-help site about depression and take out one book from the library about helping yourself during depression.

Goal 2 – By January 8th I will share with one friend or family member how I am feeling about my loss.

Goal 3 – By January 15th I will pick one volunteer position that I will enjoy doing and sign up to start doing it.

Remember to keep your goals simple, and within reach. The purpose of the goals are to make you feel good about your accomplishments.

Let a good friend or family member know what goals you have set. Sometimes someone who cares about you can give you good input as to whether your goals are realistic and may offer some help on designing your goals so that you can succeed.


This may sound simplistic, but when you are feeling depressed, you tend to shy away from doing things you enjoyed prior to your depression. You do not have to jump in with both feet, but taking small steps to regain the life you once enjoyed will give you comfort and restore your self-confidence.

Physical activity does wonders for your sense of well-being. A walk in the park or a game of tennis or lap in the pool will do your body and soul good. When your body is receiving exercise, there are benefits other than physical, you just feel better mood-wise. If you are not used to doing physical exercise, please consult your physician before starting any exercise program or strenuous physical activity.